Author: Stephanie Chatfield

  • She Asked to Be Remembered: Rossetti’s La Pia de’ Tolomei

    She Asked to Be Remembered: Rossetti’s La Pia de’ Tolomei

    In 1868, Dante Gabriel Rossetti painted Jane Morris as La Pia de’ Tolomei, a figure drawn from Dante Alighieri’s Purgatorio. Pia appears in Canto V, where she is encountered not in the blaze of Hell, but in that more chilling middle country where souls wait for release.

    Her story is brief in Dante, and therefore merciless. Her plea is simple:

    Please remember me, who am La Pia.
    Siena made me, in Maremma I was undone.
    He knows how, the one who, to marry me,
    first gave the ring that held his stone.”
     

    With quiet sorrow, she points to her wedding ring, which allows us to understand that the hand that placed it is also the hand that ended her life.

    Her husband, Nello, wanted another marriage, one with a countess, and so he removed Pia the way a man removes a troublesome object: by shutting it away.

    Pietra Castle becomes the site of her imprisonment, isolating her from the world. That is the scene Rossetti gives us: Jane Morris (as Pia) seated in that high, enclosed place, the air heavy with leaves and time. In the distance rooks traverse the sky like black annotations, marginalia added to a story whose ending is already fixed.

    What is most unsettling is how little drama Rossetti allows her. Pia does not claw at the stone. She does not beg. She sits with the calm of someone forced into stillness so long it has begun to resemble her nature.

    Her face is turned inward; her fingers return to the wedding ring, not lovingly, not even angrily, but with the dazed attention of someone touching the evidence of their own captivity.

    Strip away the medieval castle and the Dantean tragedy and you find the story’s core: a woman sealed inside a life arranged by cruelty instead of love.

    Like the Lady of Shalott, or Mariana in her moated house, Pia is not simply lonely, she has been removed from the human current. She exists apart. The world continues without her, and that, more than death, is the punishment.

    And so her simple request matters. Not grand justice. Not revenge. Only this: 

    “Remember me.”

    To be remembered is to be known. It is to insist, quietly, stubbornly, I was here. I felt. I mattered. 

    Pia asks for remembrance because forgetting is the final violence.

    Being erased is worse than being wronged.

    That is why La Pia de’ Tolomei still catches at the throat. It does not have to be about marriage alone. People are exiled in other ways. By duty, by grief, by the slow, reasonable compromises that become a prison before you notice the door has disappeared.

    The most dangerous confinements are the ones you decorate, the ones you call “fine.” What you learn to endure until endurance begins to feel like identity.

    Pia languished.

    We do not have to.

    I think that if the Pia of this painting could speak to us, she might say something like this:

    Go and live so authentically, and so fully that you cannot be lost to yourself.”

  • Updates, and a Christmas ghost story on the horizon!

    Updates, and a Christmas ghost story on the horizon!

    Recent updates & new additions on Guggums

    Here’s what’s been newly added or freshly updated around the site:

    Ophelia in Culturea guide to her artistic, literary, and modern afterlives. If you ever want one place to wander through all things Ophelia that Guggums has to offer (without having to hunt), this is your path.

    Two new Ophelia essays:
    Ophelia as a Symbol of Emotional Depth in the 21st Century
    A look at the way Ophelia has been reclaimed, not only as tragedy, but as a language for tenderness, overwhelm, and the brave act of feeling deeply in a fast world.
    The Ophelia Aesthetic: Why She Haunts Us
    Water, flowers, softness, sorrow, and the strange beauty of being undone. This is about the moodboard version of Ophelia, yes, but also what it’s really trying to say underneath the surface.

    I also added a digital color palette pulled from Edward Burne-Jones’ Music: garnet velvet, warm violin browns, misty stone grays, mossy greens, and midnight blue.

    For parents and anyone meeting Shakespeare for the first time
    And if you’re sharing Shakespeare at home (or simply revisiting him with a softer approach), I added two guides

    :How To Introduce Your Kids to Hamlet
    How to Talk to Kids About Ophelia
    No pressure, no perfection. Just practical, kind ways to help young readers meet big stories without fear.

      If it’s been a while, here are a few gentle ways back in:

      A Christmas Day ghost story is coming

      Because it’s December. And because some part of me will always believe Victorian winter is the best season for a shiver.

      Following an age old British tradition of a ghost story for Christmas:

      Christmas Day, I’ll share a ghost story about Dante Gabriel Rossetti and Elizabeth Siddal. The setting? The first Christmas of their married life.

      It’s called:

      “The Laugh in the Stairwell”

      A Christmas Day visit. A small dog with excellent instincts, a poet who brings laughter with him. And something not quite friendly that lingers in the passage.

      Thank you for reading (and for being here)

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      Guggums is growing in the way I love best: not louder, but deeper. More connecting threads. rooms to wander into, posts that feel like a lamp left on in a window.

      If you’re subscribed to the newsletter, thank you for letting me show up in your inbox. If you’re new here, welcome! Pull up a chair.

      And on Christmas Day: mind the stairwell.

      Merry Christmas from Guggums!

      xo
      Stephanie Chatfield

    • On Being Seen (and Misunderstood)

      On Being Seen (and Misunderstood)

      We all know what it feels like when someone looks at us but fails to truly see us. The rush to interpret, to categorize, to narrate each other’s intentions creates a distance that doesn’t have much to do with reality, but everything to do with projection. And when someone misreads you, when their invented story becomes louder than your actual one, there can be a sting that catches you off guard.

      Misunderstanding can feel like an erasure.

      I think the Pre-Raphaelites understood this tension. The world saw Elizabeth Siddal‘s face, her hair, even her posture captured endlessly. She was frequently reshaped her into symbols, ideals, and myths. A drowning woman, a tragic muse, an emblem of beauty tinged with sorrow. But these images were never the whole truth. They were reflections of the people who painted her, not the woman herself.

      Siddal addressed this in her poem Lust of the Eyes

      The Lust of the Eyes
      Elizabeth Siddal

      I care not for my Lady’s soul
      Though I worship before her smile;
      I care not where be my Lady’s goal
      When her beauty shall lose its wile.
      Low sit I down at my Lady’s feet
      Gazing through her wild eyes
      Smiling to think how my love will fleet
      When their starlike beauty dies.
      I care not if my Lady pray
      To our Father which is in Heaven
      But for joy my heart’s quick pulses play
      For to me her love is given.
      Then who shall close my Lady’s eyes
      And who shall fold her hands?
      Will any hearken if she cries
      Up to the unknown lands?

      Sometimes I think about that when modern life becomes loud, when people on social media decide who you are before knowing anything at all. It’s comforting, in a way, to realize we are not the first humans to face this. The misunderstanding is old; the ache is familiar.

      But there’s another side to this story, one that feels gentler, more hopeful. 

      The ones who pause.

      Who take time to ask.

      Those who listen without sharpening their claws.

      When someone truly sees your intentions, your humor, your hopes, your contradictions, you can feel as if you are welcomed home. 

      That’s the kind of seeing I want to practice more intentionally.

      The soft kind. The curious kind. The kind that assumes complexity rather than malice.

      The kind that remembers every person carries a thousand unspoken things.

      You are not failing when others misunderstand you.

      But when even a few people truly see you, they help make the rest bearable.

      And maybe that’s all we can ask of each other, to try a little harder to see the person, not the projection.


      Leave room for nuance.

      Offer the kind of attention that feels like light and warmth rather than a searchlight.

      Seen, even imperfectly, but not mistaken for someone we never were.

    • Color Palette: Burne-Jones’ Music

      Color Palette: Burne-Jones’ Music

      See the standing figure in crimson? She feels like a held note to me; still and focused. While the seated figure reads the sheet music as if her thoughts are blending with each note. Behind them, the landscape recedes into that dreamy, Italianate distance Burne-Jones loved: not quite a real place, more like a mind’s “elsewhere,” where art and feeling get to linger.

      Visiting Music at the Ashmolean Museum, Oxford.
      Ashmolean Museum

      This painting lives at the Ashmolean Museum in Oxford (oil on canvas), and it has that distinct Burne-Jones hush: beauty that isn’t trying to dazzle, just to enchant, slowly, the way a melody does when you finally stop hurrying.

      Burne-Jones Music Color Palette

      I’ve created a color palette based on Music, feel free to use it if it resonates with you.

      HEX codes didn’t exist in the Pre-Raphaelites’ era, of course, but translating their hues into a digital palette is a strangely satisfying way to carry their colors into the modern world.

      This palette feels like music wrapped in velvet. It’s rich, hushed, and quietly dramatic.

      The garnet red(7F1224) is the painting’s heartbeat (that sweeping dress), grounded by warm, woody brown (784430) like the violin’s body and carved stone details. Around them, Burne-Jones cools everything down with misty greys (888E8B, B6BCBB) in the sky, marble, and distant light, then deepens the mood with mossy olive (4A4A3C) and midnight indigo (252A40), the shadow notes that make the whole scene feel intimate, contemplative, and Renaissance dreamlike.